Stress
is an essential by-product of modern lifestyle. The reasons of this stress
include heavy work load, poor work life balance, insecurity and fears, bad past
experiences etc. fast lifestyle and so on. Here are some simple yet effective
tips of managing stress:
1. Let go of the
undesirable fears:
Stress creates many types of fears. We often fear those things which have the
least chance of occurring at all. So, most of our fears are actually needless.
Apart from these, there is no natural fear. We have created all kinds of fear by
ourselves. Researches in psychology show that whatever issues create stress for
humans do not actually occur more than even 1 per cent of the time. You can now
realize how much garbage you have accumulated in the form of stress. Throw out
this garbage, which is there in the form of fear and stress.
2. Flush out the
negative memories
Many of our stresss
are our own negative memories. We keep getting ourselves disturbed by past
failures. There is just one way to avoid this—think that these did not happen at
all. Forget them and erase all things related to them from your memory. Do this
physically as well, because, whatever has happened cannot be changed now.
However, whatever is in your control can be dealt with happily.
3. Thinking too
much will not help
Make life a simple
affair. There is no real need to think too much. A poet has very aptly
expressed this as: It is relevant to think, and necessary too, but
thinking all the time is not good. Some people simply keep on thinking.
It is, however, not right to be calculative on all counts. Living life is not a
mathematical process, but an art. It is absolutely necessary to fill colours in
life and find ways of laughing. Searching for laughter and smiles in every
aspect of life makes you tread your life on a simpler path, and then, even big
problems start appearing smaller.
4. Never think of
yourself as a small person: No person must think himself or herself as small. God has made us humans
and given such a treasure of powers so that we are smaller to none. We simply
have to explore and hone the qualities that lie within us. There is a famous
saying in the business world, Success has a simple formula—Do your best so that
people should like it. Just try your level best, and have a confidence that you
can do it. Guru Shukracharya has expressed as There is no word which
cannot be converted into a mantra, there is no root of a tree which does not
contain a medicine, there is no person who is not capable, the only difficult
job is that of one who binds together.
5. Do not have
expectations from others: One of the main reasons for our getting tense is that we have
expectations from others. We will have to change this. Someone has rightly
said, “Expect less; you will be less frustrated”, meaning that when you expect less
from others, and that when they do not prove to be helpful, you will not feel
tense. If you expect more, and others do not prove to be helpful, you shall
feel more tensed.
6. Serve selflessly:
If you wish to
derive the maximum possible bliss, serve someone selflessly. Make
sacrifice for someone. You will not get bliss greater than this, ever.
After this sacrifice, nothing but pure bliss remains in your mind, and
you will forget everything else. This is so because you are not
expecting anything in return, hence the possibility of becoming tense
will decrease to the lowest. By helping others, you also grow mentally
strong yourself. You feel that even God is with you, as you are
performing a noble deed. When you take out thorn from someone’s foot, you will feel
your own pains going down.
7. Do something
which will benefit all: In the business world, the concept of Win-Win Situation is often used.
This means a situation providing victory to both the sides. A good deed is one
by which everyone can derive benefit. When we think only about ourselves, we
tend to get tense, because then it creates an imbalance in the society. When we
harm others and work with a selfish motive, we are under a constant fear. There
is a saying, Poverty anywhere is the threat for the prosperity everywhere.
Hence, we have to look for the interests of others as well.
8. Behaviour (keep
a clear, inside-out image): A lack of transparency in behaviour is a major reason for
stress. In the first instance, people tend to avoid talking straight and
frankly, then either they grow tense later or quarrel with others. There is a
famous saying, Shameless frankness at one moment, and bliss for the remaining
moments. This means that, while entering a deal or a contract with someone, be
open and speak frankly about all aspects, even if he or she is your closest
friend. This may cause the other person to feel bad, but shedding off shame and
hesitation for some time and speaking frankly gives peace forever.
This article is an
excerpt from I Can… I Will… a motivational book by Dr. Arun Mittal
published by Sterling Publishers)
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